"WE CANNOT OPERATE FROM A PLACE OF FEAR. SURE, FEAR CAN KEEP YOU ALIVE IN A GIVEN, PASSING CONFLICT. BUT FEAR IS NOT A PERSPECTIVE. FEAR IS NOT A PHILOSOPHY. FEAR IS LASHING OUT. FEAR IS SCAPEGOATING. FEAR IS NOT ADDRESSING THE PROBLEM. FEAR IS THE INABILITY TO RECOGNIZE THAT THE PROBLEM MIGHT COME FROM WITHIN. FEAR IS MAKING IT ALL ABOUT "THE OTHER."
WE PRETEND LOGIC MATTERS IN ALL THIS. THE THING IS THAT MOST OF OUR BELIEFS ARE ROOTED IN, OR AT LEAST ANCHORED BY, EMOTIONAL TRUTHS. BELIEF IN GOD. THE WILLINGNESS TO HELP OUR OTHER MAN. LOGIC OFTEN AUGMENTS THEM, BUT ONLY SO MUCH. OUR EMOTIONAL TRUTHS ARE THE CORE OF OUR INCLINATIONS. AND IF YOUR EMOTIONAL TRUTH IS FEAR? THEN YOU ARE GOING TO REVERT TO SOME PRETTY POISONOUS BELIEFS AND SOLUTIONS. HECK, MOST OF THE ABHORRENT POLITICAL STANCES ARE ROOTED IN FEAR. ANTI-MUSLIM SENTIMENT. ILLEGAL IMMIGRANTS. UTTER DISTRUST IN THE NEED OF GOVERNMENT. IT'S ALL ROOTED IN FEAR. AND YES, THIS IS ESPECIALLY TRUE WITH RAPE. FEAR OF OUR DAUGHTERS BEING RAPED. FEAR OF OUR LOVED ONES BEING RAPED. AND THEN COMPARATIVELY WITH THE FEAR THAT WE WOULD BE ACCUSED OF SUCH A CRIME. THAT OUR LUST WOULD BE SOMEHOW MISTAKEN FOR FORCE. THE FEAR THAT WE'D GET LUMPED IN WITH "REAL RAPISTS." OR THE FEAR THAT WE'D BE CALLED SEXIST FOR OUR VIEWS. EVERY PROBLEMATIC PART OF THE PSYCHE COMES FROM FEAR.
SO INSTEAD OF FEAR, YOU HAVE TO TEACH COURAGE."
-Film Crit Hulk
Essay is quite long and in ALLCAPS, but I think it was well-written. Obviously, trigger warnings for discussion of rape.
WE NEED TO CHANGE HOW WE TALK ABOUT RAPE
- So yeah, my WIPs are staying that way for a bit. I'm borrowing time on yuri_shoujo's netbook until I can afford a new computer of my own.
- My new job is intimidating (I'm a supervisor/management, whaaaat? o_O) but I think it'll be awesome.
- Eventually all our belongings will be unpacked and the house put together.
- Aaand hopefully the midwest's lovely heatwave will break soon.
-Sword almost done (finish modding hilt TONIGHT). (check)
-Teeth prosthetics WIP (tonight?).(tonight)
-Neck-cloth needs hemming (probably will happen in the car).
*Liquid latex and fake nails will be purchased in MN.
Sherlock - Bedsheet acquired, undergarments (in the interest of public decency and protection from any cleverboots who decide to tread on my sheet for funsies) in laundry, sandals (in the interest of sanitary concerns about hotel floors) fine, make-up fine.
-Hair needs to be dyed (tomorrow night?).
*Accent and clever, cutting things to say WIP.
*Curling iron will be available in MN.
EVE - Boots fine, undergarments in laundry, glasses acquired, make-up acquired.
-Jacket almost done (sleeves need finishing, pocket for plant badge needs to be added, under-arm embellishment to be added if time permits).
-Hat needs finishing (TONIGHT).(check)
-Skirt still needs to be patterned and made ( D:). (check!)
-Scarf needs cutting down and hemming.
-Plant badge needs to be painted (tonight?[check]) and light-up part figured out.(tonight)
Edited 6/28: progress made! Also all dishes washed and kitchen cleaned so nothing moulders or ferments while we're gone.
- Anthropomorphized EVE from Wall-E. Partner costume with yuri_shoujo, who will be WALL-E. We are going to be adorable lesbian robots together and it will be adorable. Still need to sew my outfit for it (white vinyl fabric, joy...), a skirt and jackety thing, construct a hat, buy glasses and work on my props. Make-up, tights and boots are set. This one's going to take the most work yet. Edit: Jacket pattern picked out! Glasses ordered.
- Jaegerkin from the webcomic Girl Genius. Solo costume. Need to finish edging my skirt (Edit: done!), purchase pointy ear prosthetics (ordered!), and construct fangs, mod sword pommel. I will be wearing a modded Marine dress jacket, red beret, black vest, shirt, skirt, stockings, and boots. GREATLY looking forward to roleplaying this.
- bedsheet!Sherlock from Sherlock s2. Partner costume with 7hr3ven, who will be John. I will, of course, be wearing a bedsheet. (All of Sherlock's other clothing is far too nice and expensive.) With a sports bra and tank top and shorts and sandals on underneath cause yeaaah. Need to let my hair grow out and pick up some hair dye. Edit: Sheet and hair dye acquired.
Consent is always important. Doesn't matter if it's a one-night stand, a seventy-year relationship, or anything in between. I know there are more stories on the Archive that contain explicit discussion of and negotiation of consent; I've read them. Why aren't they tagged? Should I suggest tagging them as such? Is that a thing people do?
It's also making me think about the way that I write consent. I do not write rape/noncon at all, ever. (It is triggering to me.) Everybody who has sex in my stories is doing it because they want to, it's fun, they like/love the person/people they're with, and currently want to get off with them. But I don't always specifically spell it out. Most of the characters I write are self-aware enough and empathetic enough that it's not a discussion they need to have all the time and I don't write a lot of first times (if/when I manage to write a follow-up to my Gokujou Seitokai fic, that will be an exception). First time stuff is messy and emotionally wrought. (Mine were and I was definitely in a consensual situation.) Most of the time I sort of slip the consent in around the edges; they talk about it without being explicit.
Maybe I should walk some characters through the Scarleteen checklist...
Okay, so I'm
kind of very weird. I woke up a couple days ago convinced that "The Emperor's New Groove" (2000) and "Iron Man" (2008) are telling the same story with the same characters (barring an oddball or conflation). Spoilers for both films and a fair number of pictures follow the cut.
Was naughty with yuri_shoujo whilst in civilization, to the tune of lots of legos, Indian food, and a visit to/new toy from Smitten Kitten.
Also, browsing DeviantArt for pics of my favorite superheroines is a litany of no No NONO FUCK NO I HATE YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU STAND FOR NO no No No YES!...no NO. Hate. So much hate for come of the inhabitants of that site, apart from the tiny minority who actually respect them.
So many things on the to-read list... I love holiday gift exchanges, but do not have that kind of time. Ah well. ^_^
2) My favorite knight dropped by to see me on his way down from judging 4-H meat products at one of the county fairs. I love him, he's awesome and was a great fighting teacher.
I now have a month without much going on besides work. New ST_D game, _samalander, theoreticalpixy, captlebubbles, emmypenny? I've got an idea for one and could run it. ETA: Idea = TOS/XI spawn game. Demora, Joanna, David, Saavik, Peter, etc. at the Academy (handwaves timeline) on a training mission.
Plans also include rewatching lots of movies that yuri_shoujo doesn't care for, messing around on the internet, reading books, reading/rereading fic, finishing the story I'm writing for my lady, keeping up with the exercise regimen we set up, visiting my family for the weekend of my dad's birthday, playing Dragon Age Origins, and possibly trying for social interaction (of the gaming sort) outside the library.
Thrift shops/Salvation Army/Goodwill and garage sales are a great place to start looking. It's a good idea to either go in with an idea about the kind of costume you want to build (e.g. military, explorer, secret agent, society lady/gentleman, inventor, scientist, engineer, pilot, street urchin, pirate, etc. etc.) or to find a single costume piece that you like and build around that. What you'll need to get depends on a) what gender you are/your character or persona is and b) what kind of person that character is. Some good general rules of thumb:
1. Look for fabrics that are or look like wool, silk, linen, fine cotton, or canvas. Colors are awesome, especially jewel-tones (rich blue, red, green, purple, yellow). Military folks may be a little more subdued, but never underestimate the style of a rich blue Naval coat with gold trim. Lace and ruffles, feathers, and ribbon are appropriate for many characters. Gold or colored braid can add fashionable zip or military flair and cover up modern looking seams.
2. Copper and brass fittings, buttons, zippers, wire, and doodads are your friends. (Plumbing sections, fabric stores, craft stores, and the aforementioned used items stores).
3. Goggles are not, in fact, mandatory. They're great if they fit your character.
4a. Basics for gentlemen: Trousers or kilt, dress shirt, boots or leather dress shoes, a waistcoat/vest (fitted), and some sort of neck-cloth/tie/cravat. A fitted coat over top and a hat of some sort are good.
4b. Basics for ladies: Fitted trousers or skirt (layers are good here, try a petticoat or fake it with some lace tacked underneath!), dress shirt or blouse, stockings/tights, boots or button up shoes with as much or as little heel as you prefer, a waistcoat/vest (fitted) OR corset/bustier and shirtwaist, and some sort of neckcloth/tie/cravat. Alternately, a dress (look for rich colors, close cuts, and higher collars). Long sleeves are appropriate for most characters, but you can do that with a short coat. A fitted coat and a hat are a plus.
5. ACCESSORIES. Steampunk is allll about accessories, from the mundane (leather, cotton, or silk gloves, a handkerchief, old-fashioned-looking glasses, a silk scarf) to the bizarre (metal tubing "connecting" your arm to your body, "heat-detecting" binoculars). You'll just need to tailor it to your character. There are a ton of tutorials on the internet on making little steampunk accessories and gizmos.
It helps if you know how to sew, even a little. If not, why not try to learn? You should also invest in a few good tubes of superglue (mind your fingers), at least one pair of pliers, preferably two (one needlenose), scissors, and a hammer.
Don't be afraid to experiment. Decorate your hat with squashed pennies if you feel like it. Draw lightning bolts on your coat in brass buttons. Have fun.
EDITED TO ADD: I just remembered.
Patterns! Vertical stripes, checks and plaids (used in moderation), houndstooth, small flowers, diamonds and brocades are all good. For gentlemen, you might want to stick with one or two patterns and the rest solids, ladies can get away with a little more, and eccentrics (and pirates, mad scientists, etc.) can go pretty wild.
My own outfit is in black, grey, off-white, black-and-white stripe, green stripe and green brocade. I've seen some pretty awesome bright purple brocade with black, red with brown and white stripes, and a lady who did herself all up in peacock colors and feather patterns.
( Seriously, there are spoilers )
My parents and yuri_shoujo are coming to the last performance, Saturday night, which will be cool.
And after Saturday, I'll have my evenings to spend with my lady again, yay!
Things which are new:
Inspired by Inception, Tom Hardy being sexy, and the ficcing tendencies of agenttrojie, I borrowed RocknRolla from the library and watched it. Then I immediately borrowed it again to rewatch with my lady. Fffh, yes, do want. Favorite characters: the Wild Bunch (particularly Handsome Bob, mmmm), Stella (whose fate was unclear at the end of the movie, but probably unpleasant *wince*), and Archie. Handsome Bob, of course, was played by Tom Hardy and yum. I liked the convoluted nature of the story. Could have done with more women. Guy Ritchie is a little bad at that, I think. The women who exist are full of awesome, but they're kinda thin on the ground.
Then I watched Bronson, because I'd heard it was weird and that Hardy was in it. That was...the extent of my knowledge. And...well. Tom Hardy plays the main character and does it brilliantly, and the movie is really interesting and structured in cool ways, but said main character is a seriously crazy shithead. I have now seen Tom Hardy bare-ass naked and it was fan disservice. o_O No fair...
So, I've been reading Inception and RocknRolla (awwwwyeah, teeny fandom) fic and that is yay.
I've been making steampunk-inspired jewelry lately. I've only got a few pieces finished so far, but will take pics and post/link to my DevArt posts of them when I do.
Religious-related stuff under cut for those uninterested:
( Catholic blahing )